Surviving Bullies

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Almost a year ago, I created the Iconic Superman Facebook page. I designed it to be a place where fans like myself, who preferred a traditional Superman, could celebrate our hero and call for his return in comics and film. On social media at the time, voicing any displeasure over Zack Snyder’s Man of Steel, and to a lesser extent the New 52 in comics, was to invite a barrage of personal insults. So Iconic Superman drew a solid following of like-minded fans looking for a safe place to celebrate their superhero preference. Growth was slow as Facebook limits a page’s visibility in newsfeeds unless one pays for promotional tools. But I didn’t mind the small numbers. I was content to post and converse about my confident, capable, and inspirational Superman.

When the page was around 600 followers, it came to the attention of some fans of a DC Movie group. I had posted a meme, on my own page and for my own followers, stating that in the current films Captain America did a far greater job fulfilling the inspirational role of Superman. The notion enraged the DC Movie fans. They posted a call to arms in their group and spent the better part of a day attacking my page with insults directed at both myself and many of the page’s followers.

I’m not a confrontational person, so I attempted to diffuse the attack by turning it into a discussion over the artistic merit of different film adaptations. The cinema fans wouldn’t have it. Each one I answered called in three more to post over my response with mockery and jeers. I hadn’t seen such tactics since the four square court in middle school gym class. Then I realized why it as so familiar. They weren’t trying to debate the subject of Superman films. They were trying to silence me. They were trying to bully me and others on the page and bullying doesn’t refine itself with age.

I’ve written and spoken before on how various iconic Superman stories teach us to deal with bullies. You don’t engage them on their terms lest their terms start to define you. In fact, the truly strong try instead to help them—yes help the very person trying to bully you. Think about it. The act of bullying comes from an insecure place. It is the desperate need for confirmation about oneself or one’s views from the world around them, even at the threat of assault (physical or emotional). Why would DC cinema fans need to concern themselves with a page that sees Superman differently? Warner Bros moved ahead with Batman v Superman in spite of the enormous controversy and backlash regarding Man of Steel. Do they see my page as a threat to the future of DC’s cinematic universe? Or does the insecurity come from a deeper place that has little to do with me or the films? (In one post a DC cinema fan called for the death of another critical page’s administrator. Hyperbole or not, clearly serious issues reside behind such a post.)

But we’re not Superman, and there are times when we lack the power to save bullies from themselves. Superman himself faces this dilemma now and then. Such stories serve as metaphors for when we must cut those who would attack us out of our lives before the poison takes us down with them. My attempts to speak with the DC cinema fans in a civil manner obviously had no effect, so I had to ban the attackers and delete their comments. No damage was done save a few hours of frustration, but I had one more lesson to learn about the bully experience. Like Superman smiling for the camera before the credits roll, those who endure a bully’s attacks with integrity eventually come out the better for it.

The organic, unpaid growth of the Iconic Superman page recently blasted past 2,000 likes (in less than a year!). Periodically, I’ll look back over what topics or images earned the most attention and when, and in the week following the DC cinema attack, the page soared in views and likes. Facebook increases the visibility of a post when it receives more comments. The algorithm translates this as popularity and makes the post and page accessible to more would-be fans. So in their attempt to silence me, the bullies might as well have paid to advertise my page. Iconic Superman has led to Iconic Wonder Woman and Batman pages, and we’ve recently begun a successful podcast. I’ve now met authors, artists, and filmmakers who appreciate my promotion of traditional Superman values, some who want to work with me in one way or another, and in part I have common internet trolling to thank for it.

We can’t always control the stories of our lives, but we can control how we react to each new plot twist and lay the ground work for positive resolution in the end. Some may be content to fight their enemies to the death and ponder moral ambiguity in the destruction they’ve caused around them. But I and many on my page choose to live like the Iconic Superman–to do the right thing and find a way (and there’s always a way)–then soar off into a happy ending. Don’t forget to smile for the camera!

5 comments on “Surviving Bullies

  1. Old school Superman I think sets the standard of being a better person sadly for some people that’s way to hard.

    I think Jimmy said it best.

    http://imgur.com/account/favorites/RjN5p

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  2. MichaelCritzer says:

    Reblogged this on iconicast and commented:

    Food for thought.

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  3. At age 5, I got Superman’s lesson in tolerance while watching SUPERMAN AND THE MOLE MEN in 1971. Here was Superman, an alien himself, teaching humans that there are other races indigenous to Earth and we either have to learn to co-exist with them or leave them alone. What he did was de-escalate both sides and let them return to their ‘worlds’ till both could mature. He’d still be around decades or centuries later if they wanted to broker a peace settlement. Unfortunately, there are those who never saw these earlier ideals of the character played out in comics and TV and they’re missing out on a great example not just for themselves but for their children.

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  4. Thomas E. Reed says:

    I used to do a few minor voice roles for Pendant Audio, which had a number of DC Comics-based fanfic radio shows. The founder of the group, Jeffrey Bridges, took great pride in the scripts he wrote for “Superman: Last Son of Krypton,” and even named his son Clark. In this case, the bullying came from AOL Time Warner, who threatened lawsuits if he didn’t end all the shows and remove them from the Pendant Audio server, (I have most of them myself, ha-ha!)

    Bridges’s Superman was one of the most noble souls I’ve heard in audio drama, and to my mind is much like the Iconic Superman of whom you speak. I’m primarily a Marvel person myself, but I honor what you intend to do on this page. Thanks.

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    • MichaelCritzer says:

      Thanks for the comment. I had actually heard great things about those Pendant shows when I stumbled across their great artwork by The Francize (Jerry Gaylord). I was severely disappointed when I went to the site and found they’d been taken down. I would have loved to hear them. That was decidedly unSuperman-like of DC.

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